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The Nanny and Your Parenting Team

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When you look for nanny services, it is much different from having a babysitter. You have a professional childcare provider who is a valuable asset to your parenting team. It is to your benefit to take advantage of the knowledge of your nanny, without taking advantage of him or her. For families looking to hire their first nanny, there are ways to help make the transition a successful one.

It is very important that you treat your nanny with respect, and make sure that your children understand the relationship too. The goal of your parenting team is to keep your children safe and to help them grow into responsible adults. That is a pretty big order, but can be done when everyone is on the same page.

No Over-riding Each Other on Discipline Issues
When your children spend a good portion of their time awake with their nanny, there are going to be times when discipline becomes an issue. It doesn’t matter if you were the one handing out the punishment, or it was the nanny; make sure the punishment stands and is respected by all. It is very hard to help raise children when every time you punish them someone else comes in and undoes it. Your children will learn to play you against each other when this happens.

It is the same thing that happens when you tell your child “No” to something and then the other parent allows it. Make sure that everyone on your parenting team has the same basic disciplinary tactics, and follows through with any punishments. It is also crucial that any reward systems are a team effort, too.

Respect Each Other’s Time
Your nanny has a life of his or her own. Be respectful of the agreed upon working hours. While your nanny will likely be willing help in an emergency, don’t make a habit of being late. Any changes to any schedule needs to be discussed as soon as possible. This includes changes to plans for the children, as well. Any time a friend will be spending the night or going with your children when the nanny is in charge, be sure to communicate.

If you pay your nanny a salary, and need extra hours for special events or weekends away, consider a bonus. It will go a long way in terms of keeping a happy employee.

Share Information
If a child did not sleep well the night before, or is nervous or concerned about something going on in school, tell the nanny when he or she first arrives for the day. Think of it as passing on vital information before going off shift for the day. If you don’t have time to stop and chat, keep a log or memo board for sharing important information.

Having nanny services can be a wonderful and enriching experience for your family. With patience, respect and understanding, your new nanny will fit right into the family, and become a valuable asset in your children’s lives. If you are interested in our services, please feel free to contact us today.

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